Everyday Examples of Christian Rape Culture

It’s time for all Christians of all stripes to start confronting Christian rape culture.

Teaching Abstinence Without Teaching Consent is Dangerous

Without teaching consent, abuse will continue to run rampant.

Josh Duggar Blames Porn and Satan in Public Statement

When you obsess over sex, you shouldn’t be surprised when sex becomes an obsession.

Gothard’s Sex Rules: Marital Consent? What’s That?

“I wanted to learn more about what Gothard actually taught, in his own words. So I purchased Gothard’s ‘Advanced Seminar Textbook.'”

True Love Waits?: Lilith’s Story

“As Christians, we were always told that having sex before marriage would ruin our sex lives once we got married. So, when Matt and I finally gave in to our sexual urges three years later, we felt immense guilt.”

Like Voldemort To Wizards: R.L. Stollar’s Story

“I grew up in an almost alternate universe, where courtship methods of the Victorian era were popular and no one spoke of sex except in hushed or negative tones. Sex to Christian homeschoolers was like Voldemort to wizards — That Which Shall Not Be Named.”

The Styrofoam Cup: Sam Neely’s Story

“It was just a Styrofoam cup. But the man said to examine it, so I did. I was fifteen years old, and was sitting in a classroom at the church building where my homeschool umbrella met.”

My Body, Foreign Territory: Richard’s Story

“I didn’t know anything about sex, and I certainly was afraid to ask. I lived under an umbrella of religion where a ban on sex extended to thoughts of questions about basic anatomy. Information was taboo.”

Pulling the Victoria’s Secret Dance

“In fundamentalist and conservative evangelical circles, a woman is to keep her husband sexually satisfied. It’s part of her job description as wife. In fact, not a few leaders would go so far as to tell women that one way to cure a cheating husband is to put out more, and better, to become a porn star in the bedroom so that their husbands are no longer tempted to cheat.”

Let’s Talk About Christian Culture and Consent

“in all of the years of growing up in the Church, of getting lectures about abstinence in Sunday school and youth group and True Love Waits, I cannot remember a single mention of consent… For all of the talk about what you couldn’t do, the only talk about saying ‘no’ was about not sinning.”