Christian Culture and Fake Love

“I don’t want to be a part of a culture where people claim the love of a higher being but who then horrifyingly rip someone apart who is ever so slightly different than them or who is asking questions. Love is accepting someone unconditionally, their minds, their hearts, their very being despite what they think, despite not seeing eye to eye, despite their choices.”

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When Did Homeschooling and Parental Rights Mean Anti-Gay?

“When Michael Farris talks about ‘the homosexual community and their elitist friends and the courts,’ he’s painting this as an us versus them battle between his band of conservative Christians on one hand and the aforementioned homosexual community and their elitist friends and the court on the other. He is mistaken. There is no us versus them. There is only ‘we.’”

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The Reason I Despise Fundamentalist Christianity, As Revealed to Me In a Dream

“I couldn’t put my finger on either my anxiety when reading about the mistreatment of Christian girls or my strange negative reactions to other generic mentions of Christianity. Why did I cringe when I saw a post on Twitter recommending a book about God’s love? Why do I skim past the tweets with Bible verses and references to good times at church? I believe I got my answer in a dream I had Saturday night.”

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Ken Ham — The Evolution of a Bully: Jeri Lofland’s Thoughts

“Ken Ham was banned from speaking at a homeschool convention in Cincinnati after making ‘mean-spirited’ remarks about another speaker, a Bible scholar and theologian who approaches the Old Testament very differently than Ham does. AiG also used its deep pockets and legal staff to bully a smaller Christian ministry with a similar name, threatening them with charges of trademark infringement.”

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Crosspost: A Few Leave, But Others Stay

“I don’t spend as much time in my old hangouts as Lana, so I don’t feel quite as much of the tension that she feels, but I’d like to echo what she says about not assuming that the thriving ex-conservative-homeschooler blogosphere means there’s some sort of mass exodus going on. Sure, there’s an exodus — but in my experience most stay.”

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Crosspost: When Other Daughters And Sons of Patriarchy Are Trapped

“With all the ex-conservative homeschooler blogs out there nowdays, people may be under the impression that homeschool fundamentalism has viritually disappeared among homeschool alumni. To be sure, this Christian movement among homeschool graduates is dying a very slow and painful death. But it is so far from over.”

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I Was Born With A Severe Immune Disease: Attackfish

“For years, my family and I had battled bullies and an administration dead set against helping me end the torment I was enduring. I had switched schools, moved, and done everything I could to blend in and keep my head down. I was out of options and out of hope. I remember this tremendous sense of relief at the idea of leaving school, and once I had, I felt truly safe for the first time in years.”

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Not Well-Rounded, But Excellent: Sean-Allen Parfitt

“Math was indispensable in college, and I even use it sometimes today. In fact, my career as a software engineer was born from the seeds my father planted, when he taught me how to program in MBASIC on an Osborne Executive when I was only 8 years old. He nurtured this throughout my middle- and high-school career, and now I program for a living.”

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When Mennonite Stories Are Your Only Literature: Sean-Allen Parfitt’s Story

“The only reading material we had were story books published or sold by the conservative Mennonite publishing house Rod and Staff. I generally enjoyed them, but there was a very religious/indoctrinating theme in many of them. In the last few years I lived at home, I saw the Mennonite teachings from these books make a serious impact on my mother and brothers.”

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Crosspost: What Rape Culture and Modesty Culture Have In Common

“Here’s the first ugly truth: as soon as a woman falls outside the standards of what is perceived as modest, those advocating modesty culture immediately join rape culture. They shrug and say, ‘Whatever happens is on her. She’s asking for it.’ They’re not actually concerned about all women, only women who are willing to conform to their standards of modesty.”

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